I read a quote the other day that made me react…
“Here’s to strong women… May we know them, May we be them, May we raise them.”
Credit – Sarah Shrader
I love thinking about the strength of women and about all the things we accomplish in a lifetime. But I often wonder if other women think like me about what I believe is a common flaw found in some women today. Do you ever slip into judging your peer? I think most of us can – and do – given certain circumstances and conditions. It is in our DNA to compare our lives, our loves, and our future side by side to that of a friend. And occasionally comparisons can turn into judgement, which is unfortunate and rarely ends well. Most times, these turns are not intentional, but because we are human – it happens. The best approach to take is that of a listening stance and refrain from inserting our own thoughts.
Living without judgement is about mutual respect and regard. When viewing or interacting with another woman look for mutual values, and frankly, learn to mind your own business! By that I mean, curtail your reactions so as not to pass sentence. By not allowing any passive/aggressive exchanges to fly-off the cuff, a way will be paved in forming an attitude of trying not to change one another. As my grandmother was fond of saying…”Try walking a mile in another’s moccasins.”
To succeed in growing this seed, find those women who are committed to your happiness; ones who offer you the encouragement to live the life you want and were meant to live. Choose the ones who do not ask you to invest your precious time in their drama.
Let’s all think about it, ladies. Let’s find ways where we can reach our sisters with more compassion and kindness. A place where we can resist comparing or suggesting what we ourselves would do, and instead get behind each other from a place of strength instead.
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“I would like to be known as an intelligent woman, a courageous woman, a loving woman, a woman who teaches by being.”
– Maya Angelou